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Text Box: lessons of cooperation and places a high value on family interactions.  
Be careful how you express your negative feelings.  Children often think they are responsible for our bad feelings.    
Don’t label your children with such tags as  “the messy one” or “the smart one”  This leads to unrealistic expectations.

Text Box: Remark on your children’s good qualities and skills.  By promoting the positives, children will continue to achieve.  Our mom’s had it right when they told us you can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.
Give your children age appropriate responsibilities.  Let them know what they do is a valuable contribution to the family.  This teaches the Text Box: ACTIVITY FOR SELF ESTEEM:
Help your small child draw a smiling sun with rays extending from it.  Talk over the child’s good qualities and write one on reach ray.  Post this on the refrigerator  
Text Box: How to Build Self Esteem in Children
Text Box: Stress Busters

“ Don’t swallow the range of our emotions out of concern for what others might think.”  - What My dog Taught Me About Life; Gary Stanley

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The cave man faces the saber-toothed tiger.  With his spear in hand, he moving ever so slowly toward his prey. His heart is pounding, muscles are tense and his adrenalin is flowing.   He is ready to run for his life or fight to the death– fight or flight.

 

Today’s saber– toothed tigers are deadlines, traffic jams and crying children.  That fight or flight response  is as hard-wired into our brain as it was for that caveman.  The problem is that our bodies react in the same way– fight or flight.  It may have saved the caveman, but unless we are in a life threatening situation it can lead to a wide range of stress related disorders.  Those disorders include, ulcers, insomnia, depression, chronic pain and a lower resistance to infections.

 

So next time when stress has you in it’s sight, try a stress buster.

 

Breath.  You may not notice it but when you are fuming, your breathing gets very shallow.  That means you are not getting enough oxygen.  This leads to creating feelings of stress and anxiety, unclear thinking  and fatigue.  Close your eyes for a moment and take in a deep breath, through our nose if possible.  Count to three on the inhalation.  Then with great force release the breath through the mouth.  You might add a simple meditation as you breath, such as  “taking in what I need, letting go of

what I no longer need”.

 

Stretch.  A good back stretch is in order when you have spent all day at your desk.  While seated, keep feet flat on the floor. Raise arms above your head and clasp your hands. Take a deep breath in and as you exhale bend from the waist, let your head and arms hand between your knees.  Hold the position for 15– 30 seconds.

 

Listen to Music  It is true “ music sooths the savage beast” .  Studies show that listening to relaxing classical music can release muscle tension.

 

Pacing.  Time management allows for enough time on and off the job the complete tasks without the added stress of watching the clock.  Try to give yourself a time cushion everyday to plan for unexpected events.

 

Time Out.  This is not for the faint of heart.  Take a time out  and let your internal clock take over.  Cover all visible signs of times, clocks, watches, planners etc.  Enjoy the time using your natural rhythm.  If you have an important appointment after this mini vacation, set an alarm.  It will tell you when time out

is over.

 

Say no and mean it.  Give yourself permission to say no to requests for help.  Focus your energy in areas you find most important.

 

Money matters.  “ if you make money your god, it will plague you like the devil” - Henry Fielding .   Money worries are common and often an issue of priorities.   A good exercise for money worries  is to write a list of the most important things in your life.  Put a dollar amount by those things that can be bought.  Money cant buy a loving relationship or necessary rain during a drought.  It can’t buy the laugh of a child or the feeling of awe.  You can have a life of plenty by planning wisely, spending within your means and managing your stress healthfully.