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Text Box:  work, family, friends, exercise, leisure activities, church, etc. There may be periods of loneliness in the relationship. 
Sexuality is a big part of intimacy; therefore, couples need to find creative ways to "keep the fires burning". There will be times when you are bored or not as sexually excited as in the beginning. During this time, non-sexual ways of being intimate may be more appropriate.  Couples should communicate about when, where, and how they would like to express their sexuality.
There should be a degree of personal Text Box: awareness about one another's histories.  Each partner must have some insight about themselves and their partner.  They must be in touch with their feelings and be willing to talk about their experiences.  Probably the most challenging of all is developing the ability and willingness to hear each other's truths.  It is difficult to listen to your partner's truths without arguing, discounting, ignoring them, taking them personally, proving them wrong, or threatening to leave. Couples are expected to learn how to manage, express and contain feelings of affection and anger.  Open communication is important as well as knowing when not to say anything at all. a sense of self-respect” and a sense of accomplishment.

DIFFERENT FORMS OF INTIMACY

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What are the strengths/ weaknesses in our relationship?

Why do we have some of the problems we do and what can we do about them?
  
What is a compelling reason for us to be together?  

What do you need to do to have love over the long term?  

What will keep me here and allow me to continue to grow?

There are many different forms of intimacy and each one is important and imperative to developing a healthy, close, loving relationship. 

 

 PHYSICAL INTIMACY:  Spending time together and putting energy into the relationship.  Make arrangements to meet or make a date if necessary.  Physical intimacy doesn't necessarily mean touching.

 

 AESTHETIC

INTIMACY:  Doing things that you both enjoy and is pleasurable and beautiful to both of you (movies, art, music, beach, nature). 

 

 RECREATIONAL INTIMACY:  Having fun together  (physical activities, sports, social engagements, games).

 

 INTELLECTUAL INTIMACY:  Sharing ideas, worldviews, thoughts, plans, etc. with one another.

 

 SPIRITUAL INTIMACY:  Discussing goals, visions, a future together.  Make it clear what is the meaning and purpose of being together.

 

 EMOTIONAL INTIMACY:  Willingness to self-disclose, share feelings, take risks, be "in the moment" with one another.

 

 SEXUAL INTIMACY: Taking time for sex (don't put it on the back burner).  Sex should include mutuality, respect, equity, and a positive regard for one another.  Talk about sexual needs, desires, likes, dislikes, fantasies, etc.

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